Just thinking out Loud again

They say, ' if you do not take yourself serious, no one will take you serious.'
They say, ' first impression counts,' but i digress, 'does it last?'  Constant motion, nothing's ever the same, things popping up one night and disappearing the next, choose ye today your attitude, and keep it constant (too bad temperament cannot be changed, it can only be adjusted). Don't allow inconsistency to be the consistent quality about you. Build yourself up, be yourself and dare to be different. You don't have to be just because everyone is.

Remember to smile even when you don't feel like it... :)

What do you represent?

So, this other day, my cousin sent me  Shania Twain 's ' i ain't no quitter'. He said he just missed me and was listening to some of my old crazy and favorite songs and missed all the fun we had, especially me trying to pull off some country moves to a country tune ( i still can't dance to save my skin). Coming across it again, it took me places. Happy places. Happy moments. I relived those awesome afternoons (sometimes evenings), right where i am now, just by listening to the song and looking at some really goofy pictures.
This then brings me to my point today. If people were to open their boxes of memories they have about you, what would they experience all over again? Would they smile? Would they laugh ? Would they cringe ? Would they have a panic or heart attack ? Would they wish you were around or they would be elated by your felt absence ? Did you know that what you represent as an individual has a long lasting impact on how you are remembered? You may not be as powerful  as that guy who gets what he wants at a snap of his fingers, but you are powerful all the same. You have the power to influence your micro cosmos. How you envision yourself,  will determine how you carry yourself.  Forget what everyone says you are. Prove them wrong. People should see you or hear you approach and smile.  Be weary of people saying ' oh, no! Not again. Please tell me it is not X, ' about you.
Decide to leave a day to remember,  a ride to remember, a walk to remember,  a moment to remember,  a song to remember,  a party to remember,  and anything else, as long as it is to remember.
Represent hope, love, joy, peace, happiness,  motivation, you  name it, the list is infinite.

Expectations

When expectations are high, disappointment weighs a ton. When there are no expectations, disappointment is negligible. But when you have no expectations whatsoever, the party concerned is hurt, and when you have expectations, the bar is too high to be met. I guess then the question comes: how do you weigh the expectations in a such a way that they don't tip the scale onto one side?
How do you expect much without exaggerating and expecting little or none without belittling?

 Just thinking out loud.

It's All About Love

Love out Loud

One day, when you decide to walk out of your comfort zone
and explore the common sphere,
you may surprise yourself and actually have fun.
'To be or not to be' is a force to be reckoned with, yet if you purpose yourself, you will actually get out there and just love out loud.
Laugh until your head hurts.
Scream until your voice is gone.
Just share the fun, the games, and everything in between until your feet sting like needles and your legs wobble under you unable to carry you.
It's a great feeling.
If you wouldn't appreciate human company once in a while, then i don't know what you would appreciate.
Love out Loud.

Till next time...

The difference

The difference is subtle. It is not loud, but it is the difference either way.
If you are not paying attention, you will miss the clues.
The difference may be a matter of life and death. It is the difference between making it or breaking it.
We say, what is the difference, but truly, BIG DIFFERENCE it is,

Just Random Thoughts

Amid the clamor and drama, lies the eureka.
Amongst briers, you might capture roses.
When the day is over, with sun rays sinking deeper into the horizon, you may watch the credits of your life roll by.
Within you, you will find all that you need to make it but you search for it else where and miss the moment.
once a wise man said:

Life is too busy and complicated. Everyone is closed and more silent and to themselves; too afraid to share, too scared to to be judged. They rather ignore than to care. They rather waste time than than to spare. 
Spare with another. Spare to have fun. Spare to be happy. Spare to be free.
They rather mourn their insecurities than celebrate their qualities.
                                                                                              
                                                                     -Stolen

Personally i am guilty. Are you?
I thought it was worth sharing.

Till next time....

Dear Me

Dear Me

Hi, i have always wanted to tell you exactly how i feel about you. I love you just the way you are, but you are capricious.  Too capricious it is scary. No one even knows what you could possibly do next. You are full of surprises.  I thought i knew you but now the important question is have we met yet ?
Despite your shenanigans, let no one convince you otherwise and think less of yourself. You are not perfect.  You will never be perfect but you can always work on your flaws to become a better human being. You are a human being and not a human doing. So it is important to remember that what you do does not carry equal weight as who you are. 
Remember to wash your mouth with jik, just so your speech is sanitized.
Remember to flaunt your ignorence when the ocean runs dry.
Remember to choose Wisely because, contrary to popular belief, God exists, and one day, you will have to explain all your little mischiefs to him.
Oh, and learn to love other human beings because that happens to be the missing ingredient in today's relations.  The word has lost meaning and it's substance has been displaced by sweet little nothings, just for lip service.
And by the way, take heed to advise with a pinch of salt and remember that not everyone has an agenda, and not everyone is genuinely happy for you. What would it cost you just to be  little cautious ?
Most importantly,  remember what Jesus said, ' he did not come to those who think they are righteous, but he came to those who know that they need a saviour.' I am reminding you of these words so you never come to a place where you think you are  taller than the highest mountain or larger than life. Remember that his grace carried you that far. You are not that special.  It's all about his grace and love.

Yours,
I.

Meet The PR officer aka My Mouth

Ever heard of,  ' i don't know who you are until you open your mouth?' Well i guess that is because your demeanor can be misleading, but your mouth...it will always beg to differ.
Now, this PR officer, can make you or break you, but cannot be fired. Ever...sad? I know.

Sometimes after a conversation, i replay it in my mind, then i bite my tongue. Yeah :).
 I think about the things i said, how i said them and why i said them. Sometimes, i feel embarrassed to face that person or people again after saying stupid things. And it's funny because i would say a very silent prayer before i face them " Lord, i hope they forgot what i said....".
Have you ever had a situation like that? I try to never wind up in them again.
You will be surprised at how we say things we do not mean, just to keep up appearance. It's cumbersome.

This is my own little personal list of things i worked on and still am working on when it comes to my mouth.

1. If it does not concern me in the least...it is none of my business, therefore, no discussion. Let's talk about the weather.

2. I will finish my own sentences. No filling in the blanks for me. I learned the hard way, that if you do not finish your sentences, people will finish them for you and then finish you. Never ever leave your sentences open ended.

3. I don't know the details? It's acceptable to say 'I don't Know'. It's easier than defending tall-tales.

4. I do not intend to do it or show up? ever? No beating around the bush. It's no... and i really mean no. It's yes... and i really mean yes. Maybe, or I will see, really, i may or i may not. Really, i will see. The maybe is reserved for certain things... i consult my lawyer first. I do really have one, but not just your typical kind.

5. If i want you to know, I will tell you. I don't want you to know, i will keep mum. Unless, i am supposed to tell you and it flies out the window, in that case, i will have to ask for your forgiveness.

6. If i am angry, i try as hard as i can not to say anything. I learnt the hard way! never to open your mouth when you are angry, especially if you are not very pleased with someone older than you or anyone for that matter. You will say things you never knew you could say because you never had the opportunity to say them, and also, it does not help the situation.

7. I don't express my opinion all the time, depending on circumstances, i will hope you figure it out yourself. Once bitten, twice shy, and if it's really not worth the trouble, why bother?

8. I prefer not to tell alternate versions of stories. And i don't care whatever else you do to me, please just don't lie to me. Deal breaker. And you ask, what if it it absolutely necessary? Well, don't say it swiftly.

9. If i can't repeat it in your face,what is the point of saying it behind your back?

10. As someone who believes in God, if i can't say it in the presence of God, then why say it in the presence of his creation?

One for the road:
I think your words are a reflection of the state of your mind, just as your eyes are a window to your soul.

If i do not hit the publish button now, i will be tempted to hit the save, then delete later....

but for once, i am just gonna lay it out there, without being abstract.

Till next time,
God Bless You.

How i spent my summer....

School sessions are over. You are on break. If you are in grade school, you try to have the best holidays of your life time. Each year has to be different because that essay has to rock ( i wonder who said that 'how i spent my summer' composition had to be nothing but the truth, even though a fantasy could be allowed). Well, you spend the summer doing what is defined as cool, so that your peers could see how cool you were or are.  Heaven forbid you don't even enjoy the activities but ' what would they think ' keeps you going.

If you are not in grade school, you're on the race to not care. You may have had a list of things you wished to do. You compiled this list during lectures and in between classes because maybe,  you were bored or shallow ambition overtook you.

Then summer comes. You sleep, plan, and sleep some more.  Worse, you sleep, and sleep some more. It's a pity.  Why don't you take time out and get to know yourself?  

Find out who you are and who you aren't.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses.
Identify things that contribute and those that don't contribute to your life.
Introduce things that add value to your life.
Spend time with those who matter.
Learn something new.
Feed your spirit. 
Nourish your soul and workout your body.

Don't ever look back at the end of a day, do a  'day - analysis' and find out that you have nothing to look back to and say ' that was a day to remember'. We have movies to remember,  songs to remember,  people to remember,  occasions to remember but do we really have days to remember?  

Someone once said : there are two great days in your life. The day you were born and the day you discover your purpose.

Personally, i pray every day to be the day i discover my purpose.  I believe i have what it takes and i believe i can do more.... but i have to discover it. What about you?

Live. Love.
See you soon and God bless you.

P.S. should you pen ' how i spent  my summer', i hope you smile and ask,  'where do i begin? '

Index case Part 2

.....you are your own index case and your own trendsetter. Beyond imagination, you make or break yourself with cheesy habits, or sad to say, even expensive ones.
In simple words, at what expense are you forfeiting the real you for what you are not ? What are you sacrificing, that is not worth sacrifing because you are actually supposed to sacrifice for it ? 
What motivates you ? What demoralises you ? What builds your momentum ? Oh, and funny thing about momentum is, it is hard to build and easy to lose. What you read, what you hear and whatever else you surround yourself with has an impact on your modus operandi, if and only if, you allow it. But sometimes, it's not really about you allowing it  or not, it is merely about you hearing it long enough.

My theory is if you hear it long enough, you will believe it.
What do you want to hear? Seek it out.
What do you what to see ? Paint it.
What do you want to be?  Work it out.
You could wish, but wishes are just that....wishes.

As your own index case, decide what you want and want you need.  Find the difference and count the cost.
Wondering why index case ?  Index case is also known as Patient zero. This is the  initial source of ' infection'. In this case, he is the source own ' anything you want or allow'.

See ya next time...
Take care