Guilt
By
definition, guilt is that strong feeling that you get when you come to the
realization of your wrong-doing-actual or imagined, and the sense of
self-loathe for compromising your standards or acting like you employ every
prowess you possess but your brain.
I am not
sharing this with you because I know how to handle guilt or because I never
feel guilty. Actually, I am guilt sensitive and sometimes I think that I
actually exaggerate the guilt and sometimes even overreact.
I feel
guilty when I oversleep. I feel guilty when I entertain thoughts of doing the
opposite of what I know ought to do and the works.
I feel
guilty when I lose an opportunity to extend acts of kindness in whatever form,
especially when I have the capacity and ability to do so.
But, aren’t
you leaving a life synonymous to guilt-trip-land? Quite the contrary no. I
learned to stop feeling guilty over simple things that only become major enough
to trigger the guilt emotion in you if and only if, someone made it their point
to play the guilt card each time they see you. You have to learn how to say no
without feeling guilty, and to say yes because you really want to say yes.
You have to
learn how to develop baseline principles by which you will go as you interact
with other humans and these will serve as the guilt-checkpoints.
When you
feel guilty for violating your principles, it is important to forgive yourself,
let go and learn a lesson. Let the guilt be a stepping stone, to remind you of
the unpleasantness of an action-imagined or real, in the event of its
occurrence. Many a times, we allow our
guilt to become a limitation. Instead of learning a lesson, we pass a death
sentence upon ourselves. And whether you believe it or not. You are an
unforgiving jury. Really, to think of it, it makes one wonder why you can’t
forgive yourself, if God forgave you.
When you
are loved and forgiven of God, you need to allow yourself to acknowledge and
accept this offer of love unconditional and forgiveness.
