Guilt

Guilt

By definition, guilt is that strong feeling that you get when you come to the realization of your wrong-doing-actual or imagined, and the sense of self-loathe for compromising your standards or acting like you employ every prowess you possess but your brain.

I am not sharing this with you because I know how to handle guilt or because I never feel guilty. Actually, I am guilt sensitive and sometimes I think that I actually exaggerate the guilt and sometimes even overreact.

I feel guilty when I oversleep. I feel guilty when I entertain thoughts of doing the opposite of what I know ought to do and the works.

I feel guilty when I lose an opportunity to extend acts of kindness in whatever form, especially when I have the capacity and ability to do so.

But, aren’t you leaving a life synonymous to guilt-trip-land? Quite the contrary no. I learned to stop feeling guilty over simple things that only become major enough to trigger the guilt emotion in you if and only if, someone made it their point to play the guilt card each time they see you. You have to learn how to say no without feeling guilty, and to say yes because you really want to say yes.

You have to learn how to develop baseline principles by which you will go as you interact with other humans and these will serve as the guilt-checkpoints.

When you feel guilty for violating your principles, it is important to forgive yourself, let go and learn a lesson. Let the guilt be a stepping stone, to remind you of the unpleasantness of an action-imagined or real, in the event of its occurrence.  Many a times, we allow our guilt to become a limitation. Instead of learning a lesson, we pass a death sentence upon ourselves. And whether you believe it or not. You are an unforgiving jury. Really, to think of it, it makes one wonder why you can’t forgive yourself, if God forgave you.

When you are loved and forgiven of God, you need to allow yourself to acknowledge and accept this offer of love unconditional and forgiveness.