Playing Hard To Get

Dear ladies,

I am sure you have been told that you make someone's world go around. I am sure at one point in time, someone thought your name is not as cute as "hey sister" on the street or as funky as " hey my size" or as recently told, the naughty and romantic yet respectful all-in-one "wassup ma'.

I am confident (95 % confidence interval), that you have been approached by countless guys, promising you the moon and the stars, asking you if you could be their Juliet, and them your Romeo.

I am your Romeo, will you be my Juliet? Chuckles.

Well, some really want to sweep you off your feet, to wake up next to you, and you know it that you want them too, as much as they want, but your head and  heart are not in agreement. So, you my dear, improvise ( and here creativity is not a limitation). You think of ways to make him chase you. You are not saying yes or no. You are not saying leave me alone or come hither.

You watch him bend over backwards for you and you sit there, in your mind's eye, like a queen of savage and savour his suffering. When he can barely jump through hoops for you, you then want him to know that you are game via osmosis. Look, the males are not very fluid. They are rigid. They are stoic, until they reach the tipping point and then capsize. Capsized is bad. Capsized is not coming back. Capsized is not what you want. They then walk away, find another, and you, playing hard to get, remains there. Hard to get.
Some, will see beyond your facade and start making decisions on your behalf as well. Either one of these situations is not cool.
Say yes. If you want. If you need to.
Say no, if you are sure, then stay away from him. Don't intrigue him whilst it's a no for you.
Ask for time to think about it if you are not sure. Some will give you days, weeks, months maybe. They understand you are fluid and you are not a 100% hormone-free decision maker. But years, girl, you pushed the line. What if you were here the man? Would you like the games you play?

And then we have those ladies that have guys for every situation. In every town. Well, let us just say, you only have one heart. What goes round comes back round. It is not cool. Find some sense of worth from who you were made to be, and not the number of solicitations. You are more than that. You were created bigger than anything you will ever find as a definition of who you are. It is not cool. You are cool. But that is not cool.

And of course we cannot not make mention of the ladies who know that the guy is taken yet advance to get ahold of him. Or they know he is MBA ( married but available), and they help him break hearts and ruin lives.  In this category, just run and don't look back. If he can do that to another with you, he will do it to you too, with another.

All in all, be motivated by love for another.... Just a drop of phileo. Eros is another story, but be governed by the code of humanity as you find in your heart. The unadulterated sense of right and wrong. But one never really gets to know or do this, until they ask their maker to transform them. Sorta like, back to the beginning.

So long!