Human Beings

Moments come in life when you think that in life there are places, circumstances and people who are different from what you are accustomed to. I learned during my travels that the human race is the same every where in the world. You will find the good, the bad and the worst. You also as an individual you need to have a signature of who you are and how you roll. I believe it is important to be yourself and to go against the flow. Now that is one heck of an energy consuming process. In living systems, processes that go against the concentration gradient require a lot of energy.

As a christian, you need to keep in touch with your God, as he is your prime source of energy. Wherever you may find yourself, make sure you keep the faith. It is not an easy walk but with the help of  God, it can be done.

Never allow the norm dictum to dictate your life. Be the influence and do not be influenced. 

P.S. this is more like a note to self.

Ciao,

Ems

How Fast You go

During my days as an avid gamer, i learnt a thing or two from my fave game. i was crazy about Need for Speed. I looked forward to it when i was at school and classes were boring. I looked forward to it when I finished working. I was exhilarated by the milestones to be achieved, the bounty  to be collected and the reputation to be built and maintained in order to get to race a blacklist individual. After an unfortunate turn of events, i lost my career in the game and had to start over quite a few times. It was frustrating when i could not qualify for some individuals easily and others were a piece of cake. So i took a few days off and started to think. Coincidentally, my life in general was a bit of a huddle. I could not do what i used to do effortlessly. I felt like i was swamped and stuck in a dark cave without a streak of light.
I analysed my opponents and the game in general and applied the logic to life. In need for speed, you do not climb up the ladder without sweat. Sometimes it in easy, but many times, it is not easy. So is it in life. I learnt that you are only as fast as your slowest car. It does not matter in you have fast cars that you can't handle or control, you are still gonna lose. The secret is to know you opponent's weak spots, learn your ride and how to be in control and win. It is pointless really to have speed without direction. You will eventually crash into walls.
So, this thing of as fast as your slowest car, is like the rate limiting reaction, which determines how fast the overall reaction takes place. If you identify your limitations, you will learn to manipulate them to your advantage. Most importantly, be your own competitor and not your neighbour. In the present age, you have no idea what they had to sacrifice to get where they are, but you know just how much and what you have to sacrifice to get there and where you are to be.

Remind yourself always that you are who God says you are. You will be who he says you to be and you will go where he says to go.

Cheers.

P.S. i am on my way back.

I will be back soon

I will be back soon.

Persona non-grata

He was a king in in own right;

 He was condemned and sentenced to die yet he judged no one.

 He was spat at and ridiculed yet he insulted no one.

He was a persona non –grata, so that you and I can be accepted.

 What do I have that I can offer him? He offered his life for me.

 He gave up his throne, so he can wash away my sins.

He gave up his crown so I can be called child of the most high.

 The blameless Lamb of God was slain more than two thousand years ago to pardon and sanctify me.

When he died, he made a statement that in life and in death he was a victor.

 He shook heaven and earth;

 And he terrified the world of darkness.

The enclosure of was done away with;

The blanket of sorrow was shifted;

The burden of sickness was alleviated;

And the weight of sin was lifted.

All this on the Good Friday when he gave up the spirit and challenged the kingdom of darkness;

Lo and behold, he rose on the third day.

 The grave and the deep darkness could not hold him.

  He triumphed and conquered the world.

The savior King.

When People you Know Die

This morning I heard something on efm radio. It is a christian channel and what the presenter said something that really got me thinking. I never thought many people out there asked themselves the same question, i do when someone they knew passes on. When i hear that a person has died, i feel sad really but the biggest question i ask is, " where has he gone to?" "where will he spend eternity?" " Has he ever heard of life after death?" Those are the questions that i ask myself.

It is  very important to share Christ's good news, because you never know when you will be or if you were the only opportunity a person had to hear the good news. when people open up to you, even if they are total strangers, there is a reason. Share with them about Christ Jesus the hope of nations.

Cheers

Loss

When people you know pass on, unexpectantly, it hurts. The only consolation you give yourself because they were full of life and never thought they could die, is that there has been a mistake or it is a prank. At the back of your mind you however know that no one will live forever but you never consider the possibility of a sudden death. They say life is a journey and we are all sojourners.

cheers.

Epiphany

Every situation and every person is supposed to teach you something if and only if you are up for learning something new.

I have recently learned about making rash decisions and the often detrimental results that very often cannot be reverted.

Refrain from making promises you cannot keep, no matter how simple. It is a virtue to be held accountable for your word.

Fight for what you believe in whatever the cost. Everything happens for a reason and beacuse of faith. When you have faith, it shall happen.

Never cry over spilled milk. After all, you cannot put it back into the pitcher, can you?
Above all else, put God first.

Cheers...

Happiness

Happiness is in the dawn of a bright new day. It is in the laughter of children playing. It is in the flowers so beautiful and the waters down below. Happiness is within you and around you if you choose to look and see it. Happiness is achieved when you embrace your pain, grin and bear it. Happiness is in finding out what God has for you and the lessons he wants you to learn amidst your circumstances. Happiness is there close by when you make God you focus and fulfillment of his will for you your ultimate goal. Happiness comes when you stop trying and just be who God wants you to be by allowing him to guide you. There is true happiness.

Cheers.

You Owe yourself that much

Many times when you reach a certain tip point in your life, you get that feeling that it does not matter anymore. You get to a point where all you want is to throw in the towel and lie to yourself that it was worth it. You tell yourself that it was not all for nothing because you got out with your dignity intact.
Well, news flash!!!
Your playing small does not do you or others around you any justice. Just because you have reached a cul de sac does not mean you are a failure. Just beacuse you failed that particular test does not mean you are destined to never succeed again.
You get hit and it does not matter how many times but what matters is how many times you pick yourseld up and keep moving. There will always be individuals with the PHDn syndrome... pull him down syndrome. They will see you through glasses of diminishing  returns and not for who or what you really are. Someone once said that it does not matter what you call me but what i respond to. You are not a failure. |In life if you have never failed, you have never learnt anything. Mistakes are made in the wake of education. Formal or informal. Anything new you encounter is education if and only if you pick up the lesson behind.

So what am i going on about?
I am going on about the fact that you owe it to yourself to allow nothing and no one to pull you down. When you fail, It is not the end of the world. It is basically a shove into a different direction. No may mean next opportunity and you need to smile about everything. Find the one good thing that ever happened instead of dwelling on the hurts and the disappointments of the past.
It takes you to start on a journey to were you want to go. It takes you to destroy yourself before the devil himself destroys you. It takes you to allow things and people ton weigh you down. Whatever happens, remember that even Jesus was in a quagmire. He was tempted in every way we are. He was beaten, spat at and even fell. Guess what, he never gave up hope in the father. He never gave up on God because God never gave up on him. He never gave up on himself.

You owe self courage and perseverence. You owe yourself faith in something or someone greater than yourself. You owe yourself that much.
You need to let your light shine so that they can praise your father in heaven. You cannot continue rolling on the floor. Life is not waiting. It goes on with or without you. healing begins when you allow the pain to dissipate. Healing begins when you focus on it. It does harder before it gets better. Rest assured that your father in heaven will not suffer you to things you can't handle. You are in your predicament because God knows you can handle it and he will give you the grace to. It is happenning for a reason.

You owe yourself that much....

Cheers.

When in a dark place remember

My posts are random. they are a reflection of how i fell at a particular moment. With or without answers, i just write how i feel. This here, are my thoughts on Job.

Job was a man of many sorrows. He lost everything except his hope and faith in God. He may have questioned God’s motive but in his shoes, what could you have done differently? He lost his children, wealth and all his possessions. He was physically afflicted but never flinched in his faith. He however grew closer to God. The bible tells me that Satan requested that he be tried and God gave permission save for his soul be touched. Job hang on in there like hanging on a thin thread and when it was about to break, God came through.

Even today, I believe that our circumstances do not happen by accident because our lives have been determined by God himself from the very beginning. I believe that when we go through trials and temptations, we should remember who we are in Christ Jesus who is the author and the finisher of our faith. He was tempted in every way that we are but he never sinned. That is why he is able to feel our pain and come through for us if we let him.

Cheers

It does hurt

Outgoing introvert, reserved, loving and a joy to be around yet she is cynical and cold. She is cold in the sense that she is heartless, yet full of compassion and very empathetic. She is safe in her own perfect little world but apparently, she has to snap out of it. Problem is, each time she comes out of hiding, someone or some people just burst her bubble. The only thing that really keeps her going is God and his reassurance of his love for her. She wants to withdraw from the real world. It hurts, it sucks and it is not funny. Three years later, she is still mourning the death of her best friend. There is only one person who is kind of a passing shadow of her late friend but she feels it is not fair to them. When she reads books, she ain't got no one to discuss them with and she ain't got anyone to joke around with classic jokes….

Death has robbed me. Today I still cry. I still find it hard to accept. Sometimes I wake up and wish it were a dream. I could not believe the fact that her number was to be off forever. I could not accept the fact that I will never see her smile again. It is hard to believe that she will not be at my gate calling out to me. It is hard to accept the fact that she is gone for good. Six feet under. I try so hard to fit in but it does not work. My little hiding place is much better than it all. It is hard to go on. It is hard to accept it. Three years later,…it still hurts as if it were yesterday. We have been best friends since I was in kindergarten and she was in primary school…dear God, why? Why is it getting to me now? Why?

It took three weeks of tears and sadness to finally accept that my dear friend is gone for good and never coming back. It took tears and bravery. If there were to be something or someone to spoil this sanguine moment of realization, they would not be forgiven.

All i have left is memories...the fun we shared.

I learned that even though people pass on, life does not stop. It continues because you have to continue living yours.

I am an avid reader but i had to stop reading...(thank goodness i have started again after closure). It became a painful exercise because the two man reading club became a solo reading club and it was crap. Everything i did reminded me of her, everywhere i went, but as they say, time heals all wounds, it does really but first you have to be broken in order to be molded  You need to hurt so bad in order to heal. The pain is really worth if you allow yourself to heal....I did that and i am getting there. It's a journey of a thousand miles that has to be started with a single step forward.

Later...

Time out

There comes moments in our lives when we need time out. We need time to refill our spirits by going back to the source, which is God...if you believe in him. We need time out to spend with family after stretches of job, travel and academia pulls. We need time out to do a personal inventory, in which we measure our input and output and whether it was worth it or simply a waste of precious time. We simply need time out to identify toxic relationships and how to develop an anti-dote. You may not believe it, but, time out is necessary if you are to exploit your full potential in life...

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Many times, I wonder why folks ask questions that are highly senseless. I on the other hand, would mull over them and try to answer them, sometimes, evading them as much as possible, but it never gets better. I thought to myself, I better write down all the answers to the questions, assimilate them in one locus and disseminate the information conveniently for the curious. But, something occurred to me; I do not owe anyone an apology. I do not owe anyone an explanation when I do what I did as I see fit. Such instances are me cutting my hair. Someone will always ask why you cut your hair…the heck I am no longer going to answer that. When people go to hairdressers, do you always ask them why they styled their hair the way they did? Do you ask them why? So as a result, I shall not further answer such a query. Is it really anyone’s business to question my life? I am only accountable to God. I tried this think called “accountability to each other in order to help you grow” but, it does not work. I am done. Hate no one, trust no one, do the best you can, but be careful not to get burned. My weakness is, I give my all. Whatever I do, I give my all and when something (usually someone), rains on my parade, I give it my all to be aloof. Henceforth, my posts will be educating, encouraging and useful to someone out there and not self-fish attempts to try and explain me to nitpickers. For some, it is a life-style and I can’t confirm to that. Till next time…Ciao.

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