Life, if We May - II

Hello there!

Once again, I am lost in my thoughts. I was thinking about how I treated people in the past, and how in the present, I tend to treat them. I thought about how I see people get treated and how I was treated. Some encounters were stranger to stranger, some were lover to lover ( not what you are thinking: this can be friends, family members or even significant others.), and the dynamics were usually similar.  The context was different each time ( obviously), but the psychology behind it was unmistakable. 

I am of the opinion that the majority of us, even with our best intentions at heart, may sometimes be guilty of selfish gain at the expense of another person. 

I don't know if this sounds right though. 

What I am trying to say is, more often than not, we encourage people to fly or not fly, to go or not to go, to be or not to be, based on what is in it for us. 

Let me go on to explain this a bit further. If the person of interest (POI) flies or becomes that which they are working on becoming or unbecoming that which they are working on unbecoming,  what do I get out of it? Do I loose a punching bag? Do I loose a maid? Do I loose a chauffeur? Do I loose a space filler? Do I loose a free ticket? Do you get the picture? 

If the person of interest soars, what becomes of me? It would mean that I would have to grow up - if I haven't already.  It would mean that I have to actually learn to think for myself, do things for myself and even, take responsibility for my actions. 

On the flipside, if we helped people - the majority of cases - out of pure selflessness,  maybe it would be great. 'But Ems', you may object,  'it is only natural that we act out of the inherent desire for self preservation.'

You are right. But in the process, what if we acted in an attitude of raising independently interdependent humans instead of codependent people? What if? 

Think about it.

I don't know if this got across in an understable way. If it didn't,  leave me a comment and we will take it from there. 

XOXO

Ems